When your friend group overlaps with people who are disgusting and abusive.
things to say in bed:
• crikey that’s a big one!
Now that Brody is the biggest dude around, I’m waiting for him to get it in his head that he’s the alpha male.
i hate remembering good times that i had with people who ended up being really shitty to me
This was in my psychology book. I thought it might be useful to those who can’t think if gender-neutral terms.
having your partner miss a reply or having your thread dropped sucks and all but
- make sure it’s actually your partner’s turn.
sometimes people just forget whose turn it is. a lot of the time what i’ve done is reply, but i forgot to publish it, so i think it’s someone else’s turn. my friends do this a lot, too. shit happens.
double-check, just in case.
- don’t jump to conclusions.
it sucks to have things move slowly or have them missed or dropped. everyone understands this. it doesn’t mean you’re a bad RPer, or that your partner doesn’t want to RP with you because you suck and they hate you. don’t vagueblog about it, don’t send them hateful or guilt-tripping anons, don’t tell your friends all about what an elitist meaniepants asshole they are.
take a deep breath.
- consider your partner’s side.
especially lately because of the season, a lot of people might be busy with family/work/finals/holidays/sickness. this tends to make RP kind of taxing, so maybe they’re online less or all they want to do is ask games. maybe they just forgot. maybe they didn’t see the notification. these things are a looooot more likely than them hating you.
- communicate with them.
it can be kinda scary sometimes because it feels like you’re bothering them, i understand. the thing is that there’s a 99% chance you’re not doing that, unless you’ve sent them demanding “where is my reply, asshole” messages (especially very shortly after you posted, double-especially multiple messages). if you’re in doubt, wait ~48 hours before you send an ask, but don’t be afraid to, okay? a lot of us really need and appreciate the reminder.
it’ll be okay.
DM: “But you stole the key.”
Rogue: “What’s your point?"
I know it’s trendy to fight the system and cry that we are all becoming slaves of technology, but this attitude overlooks that computers and phones are tools for communicating. When someone thinks I’m an idiot smiling at a machine, I’m actually smiling at my girlfriend who is 10000 miles away and whom I would have never met if not for these newfangled electronics. As they say: when the wise man points to the moon, the fool looks at the finger.
This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to tackle for a while now; much credit to this excellent post for bringing it to the front of my brain.